Staying Connected in a Connected World: A Chat with Dr. Dolapo Fakuade

I recently had the pleasure of chatting with a good friend and expert in intelligence, security, and disaster management, Dr. Dolapo Fakuade—whom I fondly call Dolas. We’ve known each other for nearly a decade, and every time I talk with her, I’m reminded of how deeply interconnected our lives are with each other and the environments we inhabit. Dolas brings a wealth of international experience, having worked in the UAE, Australia, New Zealand, and more, and she views every interaction as an opportunity to understand people’s perceptions of risk and resilience.​

Learning From Christchurch and Disaster Recovery

Our conversation brought me back to my visit in Christchurch, New Zealand, about nine years ago, where I witnessed firsthand the incredible community spirit following their devastating earthquake. Dolas helped me see how critical it is not just to rebuild infrastructure but to preserve the "soul of the place"—the connection people feel with their neighborhoods and environment. I recall seeing vibrant graffiti art and community dance spaces in downtown Christchurch, which served as a reminder that healing is more than physical rebuilding—it’s emotional and spiritual connection, too.​

The Many Dimensions of Connection

Dolas widened my understanding of connection beyond just personal relationships. She explained how we’re nested within multiple systems—our homes, cities, regions, and countries—and how trust across these layers is vital for cooperation, especially in disaster management. Whether it’s emotional bonds with family and friends, professional networks, or environmental relationships, these connections influence our well-being and resilience.​

Preparedness and Resilience Through Connection

Dolas emphasized how essential it is to build connections before disaster strikes. We need to know our neighbors, understand local emergency plans, and be economically and socially prepared for disruptions. She gave real-world examples where plans fell short because organizations didn’t coordinate effectively with emergency services or other agencies. On a more personal level, it's about having strong social support to help navigate crises and avoid isolation.​

Recognizing Stress and Taking Breaks

One of the most powerful parts of our talk was about recognizing when you’ve reached a breaking point and need to step back. Dolas shared how important it is to have people in your life who can see changes in your behavior before you do—those connections can be a lifeline. She talked about the value of colleagues, friends, and mentors who encourage you to take time off or recharge when you’re overwhelmed. I connected with this deeply, especially as someone juggling many responsibilities, and it reminds me how crucial it is to nurture these relationships.​

The Role of Laughter and Social Support

We also discussed the importance of laughter and positive social interaction at work and in life. Dolas told me about how she noticed her own mental health declining when she stopped laughing with her colleagues. Those light moments aren’t just fun—they’re essential to creating a healthy, productive environment. This reminded me that connections that bring joy and relaxation can improve collaboration and overall well-being.​

Building Networks, Even Virtually

Dolas shared stories of building global networks, with friends she talks to regularly despite never having met in person. She stressed the importance of purposeful networking—not just when you need something, but as an ongoing investment in relationships. This resonated with me as I think of all the virtual connections I’ve made over the years that help me both professionally and personally.​

Staying Connected to Environment and Culture

Finally, we talked about how our connection to the environment and sense of place influences our health and recovery during disasters. Whether it's respecting nature as the indigenous Maori do in New Zealand or finding spiritual renewal in places that feel like home, our surroundings shape who we are. This deep connection helps people cope with trauma and find resilience in adversity.​

This conversation with Dolas was a profound reminder that connection is at the core of resilience, wellness, and recovery. Whether it’s through community, work relationships, or environmental respect, staying connected enriches our lives and prepares us for whatever challenges come our way. I’m grateful to share these insights and encourage you to nurture your connections, build your networks, and take care of your well-being.