Unlocking the Power of Positivity: Insights from Dr. Paul Jenkins

Mark
Jul 30, 2025
2 min read

Updated: Nov 6, 2025

In a world where our experiences are largely shaped by our connections, understanding the science of positivity and relationships can be life-changing. On the latest episode of Double Helix, Dr. Paul Jenkins, psychologist and founder of the The Positivity Model, shares deep insights into cultivating meaningful relationships that enrich our mental and emotional well-being.

The Spectrum of Mental Health

Dr. Jenkins re-frames mental health as a dynamic spectrum, ranging from sickness on one end to flourishing and thriving on the other. Moving beyond traditional psychotherapy’s focus on illness, he champions positive psychology, which focuses on thriving and prosperity. This shift invites us to concentrate on what allows us to flourish in life, not just survive or avoid illness.

The Seven Key Relationships

At the core of Dr. Jenkins’ philosophy are seven essential relationships that shape our lives and well-being:

Relationship with our creator or spiritual beliefs
Relationship with ourselves (self-awareness and self-care)
Relationship with our spouse or partner
Relationship with children
Relationship with extended family
Relationship with others beyond family (friends, community)
Relationship with things (material, environment)

Nurturing and prioritizing these relationships, Dr. Jenkins suggests, leads to deeper fulfillment and a more connected, harmonious life.

Nine Foundational Principles

Dr. Jenkins identifies nine principles guaranteed to enrich and save relationships:

Positivity
Values
Humility
Forgiveness
Respect
Love
Compassion
Work
Wholesome Recreation

Applying these principles helps navigate the inevitable complexities of interpersonal connections and fosters lasting harmony and joy.

Supporting Research on Positive Relationships

Scientific consensus from positive psychology research affirms these insights. Studies show that positive, respectful relationships are among the strongest predictors of happiness and mental health. Close supportive bonds:

Build resilience during life’s challenges
Enhance self-esteem and sense of value
Encourage personal growth and self-reflection
Serve as buffers against stress and adversity

Martin Seligman, a pioneer in positive psychology, highlights relationships as the “single most reliable” foundation for well-being, more than accomplishments or material success.

One Thing to Try Today: Practice Gratitude in Key Relationships

To start unlocking positivity and strengthening your key relationships today, Dr. Jenkins’ model and positive psychology research converge on one simple exercise: Express gratitude regularly. Take a moment to acknowledge and verbalize appreciation for someone in your life—be it a spouse, child, friend, or colleague. Research links gratitude practice to increased positive emotions, improved relationship satisfaction, and greater overall happiness.

Conclusion

Dr. Paul Jenkins’ conversation reminds us that our journey to a flourishing life is ongoing. By embracing positivity, nurturing our seven key relationships, and applying foundational principles, we can create a life rich in connection and meaning. As Dr. Jenkins says, “Awareness precedes choice.” By becoming aware of our thoughts and actions, we can steer our lives toward what truly matters.